A few weeks ago, a close friend – who has to be one of the most animated people I know – shared a tell-all and asked me to feature it here. “To help people,” she said casually. I think my love and admiration for her quadrupled, if that’s even possible.
Hope you’re as inspired as I was!
If you do not already experience wild and unpredictable changes in your life, I am sorry to be the bearer of reality but you will sooner or later.
My rollercoaster started taking its toll on me right about this time last year, and for the most part, I managed to deal with it the best way I knew how. Depending on the situation that arose, I would either confront it firsthand, endure it or simply eat-it-out (LOL! Yes, I gained an awful amount of weight).
This year started off quite well. My ‘’rollercoaster’’ seemed to have stopped for a minute until mid-March when I realised that this time, it was on another level. Different situation, different difficulty level, different space in my life. This time, the ride was rougher, tougher and I searched for someone to hold onto because I was getting ‘’consumed’’ psychologically and emotionally.
I understand that the best way to deal with my issues is by expressing how I feel and what I think about the situation; it helps me a whole lot and yes, the person I express myself to has to be someone of character and a deep sense of reasoning.
But for some reason, whenever I was done painstakingly explaining these issues to my ‘confidant’, another would come up, and the wound that seemed to have been healed from the last session would hurt even more.
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It has been two months since my last dilemma, and I suddenly realise that the reason why these rollercoasters never seem to stop is because I am yet to understand that problems don’t define me or my outcome. They should not decide how I feel, my value, my thought process or prevent me from being the best version of myself everyday.
So I made a promise to myself that every situation that I experience is another opportunity to learn and become better. Also, I know I have to work on my weaknesses, and make myself understand that it’s okay to be vulnerable in difficult circumstances. It brings strength and will help speed up my learning process.
I have also learnt to listen more because there is always noteworthy information in every jargon and finally, to communicate smarter. It’s not about how well or how frequently I communicate with my team or clients, but how much impact I leave and gain from the communication and for me, That’s the real meaning of effective communication.
The truth is one’s roller coaster is bound to take a toll on the person, but we must realise that its essence is never to define us, but to mould us into stronger and more valuable individuals.
Spirit, lead me where my trust is without borders
Let me walk upon the waters
Wherever you will call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander
And my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Saviour.
…. Hillsong’s Oceans
Question:What have you learnt from your emotional rollercoaster (past or present)?
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